How Do You Romantically Attract An INFJ?
“Being genuine is key to attract an INFJ.”
You attract an INFJ by being present with them.
An INFJ wants to share time with you, hence, their most favoured Love Language is quality time.
INFJs highly value loyalty so it’s no surprise that they want you to be loyal too. Especially when they’ve made you comfortable, with intent, and usually don’t know so many people who are really loyal to them; as most people are so busy nowadays, they just don’t have much time for spending time with those who really value them as a person, and like them for who they are.
You attract an INFJ — and everyone really — by being yourself.
Don’t try to be deceptive or disguise who you are. That won’t work, help or contribute to the welfare of your relationship.
Thus, I’d recommend you to just be yourself. That’s how life works; in my opinion.
You be yourself, and those who will stay with you will come into your life when you accept who you are, but nonetheless keep improving yourself (because there’s so much hidden potential in your veins you cannot feel yet!).
Those are your people — like-minded, enthusiastic, passionate individuals who don’t care about how awkward or weird you may be, they want to see you succeed, and thrive.
You attract an INFJ by listening to them; without trying to come up with solutions.
Although advice can be very helpful at times, sometimes, listening intently really helps more.
- LIstening helps validate the emotions of people and show how attentive and aware you are. But also that you’re present.
Attunement is key.
You attract an INFJ by being gentle with yourself, first — and then loving and being gentle with them.
It all comes down to how much effort & time you contribute to your inner-workings.
- How do you choose to speak with your self?
- How do you think of yourself?
- Why do you think that way of yourself?
- Why do you speak about yourself the way you do?
Find a solution if you treat yourself poorly. Because, your “inner world” reflects back into the real world, and how you choose to perceive your partner.
- How can you be more gentle with yourself, so you can love your INFJ even more and treat them how you want to be treated.
And lastly;
You attract an INFJ when you want to thrive & grow not only as a person, but as a team.
Due to the nature and the cognitive wiring of an INFJ, they most likely improve themselves, their skills, and many other projects they’ve taken on every day.
Hence, an INFJ may find you more attractive when you try to improve yourself, and are passionate about learning novel and different topics. Only one rule: don’t be arrogant or try to show off without the real know-how.
Be genuine.
Be committed; and
Simply love them for who they are.
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This story was originally published on Quora
