Safety + Emotional Intimacy
The most important ingredients for a healthy and flourishing relationship
Safety, whether emotional or physical, is what helps build stability, whereas emotional intimacy makes you feel alive, excited, and even more essential, heard and seen for who you are.
These factors contribute the most to a relationship to thrive and also are therefore the most vital in keeping it healthy and thay the couple in it feel appreciated and wanted to begin with.
A Relationship Without Safety And Intimacy
A relationship without safety is one wherein a or both partners feel uneasy, anxious, even distressed. It doesn’t provide the necessary amount of stability we not only crave, but also deserve.
On the other hand, if there’s no genuine intimacy, we become lonely and feel isolated from our partner — and not only ask us why we are in this relationship to begin with, but also who we are as a person. We don’t feel appreciated or loved anymore, but instead, we feel ignored and maybe even stop engaging life with joy and passion which we did in the past.
Our life is suddenly filled with moments of melancholy, sadness, and as a result, we feel hopeless for our future.
A Relationship Filled With Safety And Intimacy
A relationship that’s characterized by safety lets us breathe, and more so propels us to want to be present and attentively listen to our partner. We don’t feel jittery, antsy, nervous, stressed, or any such feeling.
Instead, however, we feel embraced by the emotional and physical warmth our partner exudes and because of all this feel more free to hug, kiss, embrace or cuddle with our partner, which leads to natural intimacy and true bliss for both partners.
A relationship that is filled with intimacy is one that we have always longed for, whether we knew it or not.
A relationship that, deep down, makes us feel “this is it, I have finally found a human being that is devoted to making me feel seen and heard. Someone that genuinely wants to get to know me — my fears, vulnerabilities, and my shadow side — and stays.”
